but HOW i can select if either the 800, 861v6 or 8k are upsampling?
Any device will upsample if it gets a low-frequency (44.1 or 48kHz) signal at the input. You can not select this, it will always happen, I am convinced Ronnie is correct on this. I can hear a clear difference between the 'old' upsample filter and the apodizing one, and changing 'HS output' from Y(es) to N(o) did not make any difference.
And is there a new choice to select where the apodising happened?
No, it depends on which device performs the upsampling and which filter it uses.